POP! Goes the Ego
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RULE OF LIFE: Getting your bubble popped is never as much fun as popping someone else’s.
A long, long time ago in a neighborhood far, far away blowing bubbles was the perfect way to pass an afternoon. A small plastic container with magic liquid and a wand with a circle on the end allowed you to make bubbles appear with a mere puff of air. A quick learner could make double, triple, large, small and multiple bubbles with ease. However, no matter how intricate and complex, the person who blew the biggest bubble was the best.
Egos are like bubble contests, some are impressive, others are complex, but the biggest always lay claim to being the best. We all know people in our lives with massive hubris. They never miss a chance to let you know their accomplishments, they’re in charge, they’re in this to win. In subtle and not so subtle ways everyone around them know they don’t measure up. Whether we live, work, are friends with or related to folks with overstuffed opinions of themselves we must be careful not to get sucked into their ego bubble.
One of our first responses is to POP these people. Not physically, though tempting, but through our own subtle and not so subtle ways of chipping away at their oversized confidence and bravado. It is slippery knowing when, where, how and if to attempt to pop a swollen personality. Wisdom and life teach us most of the time it’s not worth the splatter.
When we look at our motives for wanting to let the air out of a gas-bag we often discover it’s more about our own ego than theirs. Our feelings have been hurt, we’re underappreciated, our ideas and opinions are not heard, or our egotistical counterpart just gets on our every nerve! Even as adults we want to win the contest.
Being mindful and expanding our egos don’t go together. Letting go of feelings of being bullied, embarrassed, ignored and disregarded isn’t easy. Coming to grips with our own swollen selves can be humbling.
Life isn’t about competing with one another. It’s not having what another possesses. It’s learning who you are and knowing that is enough.
“He who is not content with what he has, will not be content with what he wants.” –Socrates
blessings and burstings,
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Posted on October 12, 2013, in Mindfulness and tagged #humility, #inspire, #journey, #kindness, #life, #mindful, #wisdom, #zen, Alter ego, Bubble wrap, mindfulness, Personality, Pop (video game), Popping, Psychology, Social Sciences, Socrates. Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.
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