Just Stand There In Your Deadness & Be Dead

Over at the Inquisitor there’s an interesting post on a man who isn’t dead being told he is dead and there’s not much he can do about it.


A judge told Mr. Miller, the not so deceased man, “I don’t know where that leaves you, but you’re still deceased as far as the law is concerned.”

Reading this I tried to get into the judge’s brain as he stares at an alive man and tells him “you’re not alive, at least not according to the law.”

Mr. Miller, his family and the judge are in an dilemma. They know he’s alive, they see he’s alive and yet according to some statute some person wrote up and had ratified he’s not. What’s Mr. Miller going to do? Not sure.

What about you? Ever had one of those times when you’re right and the other person’s wrong? Had an idea that is clearly better than a co-worker’s? Given a piece of advice to a family member or friend not taken? All the evidence pointed in your direction, was in plain sight, a no-brainer and yet the other person refused to see it?

We’ve all been there and it can be frustrating. There are times when we clearly know what’s best and in spite of our efforts we’re ignored, refuted and shouted down.

When this happens, what do we do? We keep walking the path. We accept the blessing of choice and folks ability to choose their own journey. We still make ourselves available to them even if, in time, we are proved 100% correct. We don’t say, “I told you so,” instead we say, “if you need me I’m here.”

Why? We remember that we too have refused to listen, take sage advice, carried the burden of our ignorance and someone kept assisting us anyway. We do it because this is what it means to love.

“It is one of the beautiful compensations in this life that no one can sincerely try to help another without helping themselves.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

seeking the living among the dead,


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Posted on October 14, 2013, in Mindfulness and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.

  1. Reblogged this on That's a Jenn Story and commented:
    The Tuesday Reblog

    The WannabeSaint posted this approximately the day we got the news that The Seminary was being shut down. It seemed appropriate, somehow.


  2. Thank you for your likes on so many of my posts. I really appreciate my readers. I read all yours sent to my email. I especially love this one. Thanks again! Best of luck to you!


  3. I’ve learned in those situations to give a knowing smile and subtle nod, feigning acknowledgement of their “wisdom,” without overtly agreeing with them. A fool will never admit he’s wrong, but a wise man will eventually admit his error. Either way, you’ve won.


  4. Great post and great reminder to be patient with people in their folly.


  5. May I reblog this once I get back to blogging next week or so?


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