Having Kids vs. Not Having Kids
I couldn’t help but laugh out loud as I watched this video about having kids vs. not having kids.
My wife and I we’re not blessed with the ability to have children. When first married we had a group of couple friends whom we hung out with and deeply enjoyed. It wasn’t long, however, before they began having children and soon our barrenness left us without kids and without them. Promises were made of friendships lasting and not changing but couples with kids speak a different language, live different lives, than those without.
This past summer we celebrated 23 years of marriage and have become used to simply being a couple. Parents often see our “carefree lives” and tell us how lucky we are to be able to go out to eat, see a movie, or do almost anything we’d like without all the hassle.
There are times when we “evaluate” the skill of the parents of the hyperactive child running through the store, the screaming infant in a theater, the two-year old throwing a tantrum in aisle four. When mentioning these “unruly” kids to parents they smile and say; “you have no idea!” and they are absolutely correct.
We don’t know what raising kids is like, nurturing them, protecting them, being responsible for their lives. How could we? What’s also true is these couples who have children have no idea what it’s like not being able to have them.
Judging is such a waste. Perhaps we should stop focusing on what we think others are lacking and start looking for ways to be more understanding.
“Love is the only mirror we must use to judge ourselves and others.”
― Bodie Thoene,
Posted on November 18, 2013, in Mindfulness and tagged #God, #inspire, #journey, #kindness, #life, #mindful, #wisdom, #zen, advice, Bible, mindfulness, Peace, Prayer, purpose, quotes, Religion and Spirituality. Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.