One of the key understandings of working with Incarcerated Fathers is that when you check in to the jail you are on the facility’s timetable.
I have an all day training today beginning mid-morning so I made an early appointment with the local correction’s unit last week. I arrived twenty minutes ahead of time, logged in and waited…for almost forty minutes. I studied my notes, took several deep breaths and tried my best to stay mindful and not let frustration get the best of me.
While I sat there I noticed a lighting bug that had somehow gotten inside. It was flying around, bumping into things, crawling on the floor. Finally it landed near the door that led outside. I put down the notebook I was holding, walked over, opened the door and gently nudged it out. At first it turned around and started to come back inside but I continued to guide it in the other direction and when I could; safely shut the door. The bug paused a moment, recovered its bearings and then flew away.
When I sat back down I thought about the dad I was there to see and the sessions we would work through over the coming months. I hoped he too would be nudged, guided, shown the way to freedom and once given a chance; he would spread new found wings and fly away.