Being So Sensitive

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This morning I was part of a discussion that dealt with the question; “What is a sensitive person?” The answers, be they positive or negative, depended a lot on whether or not you considered being sensitive a positive or negative trait. 

For some being sensitive was empathy, an awareness of the mood of a room or a person. For others being sensitive had more to do with being “thin skinned“, wearing one’s heart on their sleeves, not being able to take a joke or criticism.

Later, I attended a worship service where the choir included a person who sang vocally and with sign language. I watched this lady use her hands, and sometimes entire body, to communicate both the words of the song and the voice of her spirit.

Many times in our conversations with others we only hear their words or wait impatiently for them to take a breath so we can begin to talk. Listening to someone is more than recognizing the words they speak. It’s also hearing what isn’t said; the tone of voice, trembling, whispers, loudness, hyperbole, flailing of arms and legs or not moving at all. If we’re receptive we can pick up on pain, struggle, doubt and fear that’s expressed through a myriad of ways.

Wisdom teaches us that being sensitive, empathetic, willing to listen to the other with our ears and our spirits is a rare and needed gift. Oftentimes what someone doesn’t say may be exactly what they need us to hear.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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Posted on July 12, 2015, in Life and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. I find it curious that a person who is hurt will often find they are shamed as well for being ‘thin skinned’ while a person who causes hurt gets away with it. The defense that it wasn’t meant or was only a joke seeming to be more important to some people, than someone else’s pain. This is something I would like to challenge and change. I would like hurting people to be less socially acceptable.

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    • Blessings and thanks for posting.

      I wholeheartedly agree. I once worked with someone who was “thin skinned” when it came to critiques of himself but could be very hurtful in comments to others.

      Maybe one day kindness will be our universal language.

      grace and peace

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      • That’s a very different thing again, isn’t it? that kind of thin skin coupled with hurtfulness is perhaps more about ego, both ways. Reducing the fear of the person can sometimes ease it, deeding on what’s going on under the surface.

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  2. Well written, we all have sensitive moments. And we should. But a sensitive person is selfish. They believe their feeling superceded everyone else’s. I have never met a sensitive person that took the time to actually embrace another person’s perspective. You wrote a piece about listening to the heart of someone. Most of the time that will be the least, sensitive person that will do that. You spoke of empathy, which is acknowledging someone else’s feels. Sympathy is what a sensitive person wants. They want you to feel as they feel, not just say you understand. But, a relationship involves two or more people and everyone should be accounted for. Question: One sensitive person in a room, who do people typically cater to? Who gets left with the least attention? I believe sensitivity should be a part of our life’s, not someone’s description. Though, I don’t agree with your assessment, I did enjoy reading your well put together explanation.

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