Open Mouth Insert Foot

I stuck my foot in my mouth yesterday, not just the toes but the arch, all the way up to the heel!

It all started so innocently. I spotted someone I hadn’t seen in a while and stopped to speak with them for a few moments. Truth be known I was running late for an appointment and my mind was on where I needed to be not where I was and who I was talking with presently. I was only giving cursory attention to this one who is going through an incredibly difficult time.

After a few pleasantries I made a comment about a change this individual was making to a room. When the reason was given as to why, I missed the “key phrase” which, if I had been mindful of the person and the present,  I would have understood what was and was NOT being said. I then could have steered the conversation in another, more pleasant direction.

However, it sailed right over my head and I then made another comment which, in most situations would’ve been benign, but was painful in the current setting. Immediately, after it had left my big mouth, I realized what this person was saying and not saying, why they were doing what they were doing, and wished I could do the whole thing over.

There is a spiritual discipline called contemplative listening. At the core of this practice is the instruction to be fully engaged with ear, mind, heart and spirit, open to fully receive the other person. It is the belief that every moment is holy and to only be partially available is to cheapen and risk missing a divine encounter.

Sometimes lessons are indeed learned the hard way.




About is a place for sojourners walking this spiritual path called life. - Brian Loging,, is lead writer at tWS. He is also a speaker, author, poet.

Posted on July 28, 2015, in Mindfulness and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who isn’t always mindful, and you remind me that maybe when a conversation isn’t going well and I’m hurting, that maybe the other person isn’t really paying attention because he or she also has something pressing happening. I guess we shouldn’t get bent out of shape and just be happy that somebody noticed, even though he or she has problems of their own. That’s something big, really…I’ll keep your article in mind today, have a nice one yourself.

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  2. Unfortunately this kind of thing happens to all of us and awlays will.

    This is a good reminder for everyone.

    God bless,


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