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Times like these

“I’m just sharing this because there is constant hate, mistrust, and division in the world we live in today…”

“We still have so far to go, but I promise you small acts of kindness like this are what’s going to rebuild trust and faith in our communities.”

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The Door

When we enter into the household of God, we come to realize that the fragmentation of humanity and its agony grow from the false supposition that all human beings have to fight for their right to be appreciated and loved.

In the house of God’s love we come to see with new eyes and hear with new ears, that all people, whatever their race, religion, sex, wealth, intelligence, or background, belong to that same house. God’s house has no dividing walls or closed doors. “I am the door,” Jesus says.

#HenriNouwen

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Crucial

It seems crucial that you realize deeply that your worth and value does not depend on anyone else. You are a person worth being loved and called to give love. Keep saying to yourself: “I am being loved by an unconditional, unlimited love and that love allows me to be a free.

The more you can come to realize this, the more you will be able to forgive those who have hurt you and love them in their brokenness.

Without a deep feeling of self-respect, you cannot forgive and will always feel anger, resentment, and revenge. Loving one another means forgiving one another over and over again.

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Start Over

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Different Path

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Underestimate

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Life and Love

In my own community, it is much easier for handicapped people to accept the inability to speak, walk, or feed oneself than it is to accept the inability to be of special value to another person.

We human beings can suffer immense deprivations with great steadfastness, but when we sense that we no longer have anything to offer to anyone, we quickly lose our grip on life.

Instinctively we know that the joy of life comes from the ways in which we live together and that the pain of life comes from the many ways we fail to do that well.

#HenriNouwen

Discombobulated

Yesterday I stopped at a gas station, went inside and was confused. I have been in this convenience store several times because it has the cheapest gas in town. I go in, take a left to the counter, and pay. However, when I went in, there were drink coolers where the counter used to be. I looked around, saw the cashier on the opposite side of the store, walked up to her and asked; “Did the store change?” “No,” she replied. I took a few steps back, looked out the window to make sure I was at the correct station. It appeared the same but it wasn’t. I heard a chuckle behind me, looked at the woman working the register, and she confessed the store had been flip-flopped. She laughed, I faked a smile, told her; “thank you,” and went outside to fill my tank. Driving home I reflected upon the experience.

Life gets upended at times and some of us don’t do well with change. We try to accept and adapt but it takes time, lots of it. The convenience store becomes a manifestation of our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We’re discombobulated and we don’t like it. We wait for someone to start laughing, tell us it’s all a joke, no harm, no foul, but that’s not usually how life works.

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@brianloging
thewannabesaint.com

Love Deeply

Do not hesitate to love and to love deeply. You might be afraid of the pain that deep love can cause. When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply.

The pain that comes from deep love makes your love even more fruitful. It is like a plow that breaks the ground to allow the seed to take root and grow into a strong plant. Every time you experience the pain of rejection, absence, or death, you are faced with a choice. You can become bitter and decide not to love again, or you can stand straight in your pain and let the soil on which you stand become richer and more able to give life to new seeds.

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Like the Snow

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Love, Opinions

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Service

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Sharing

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Anyway Part 2

A few days ago I blogged about not wanting help unloading a truck full of windows and getting it anyway (https://thewannabesaint.com/2019/01/20/anyway/).

As me and the helper emptied the truck I was trying to place the windows into the dumpster without breaking any panes so others wouldn’t have to walk on broken glass or cut themselves. In spite of my best efforts I somehow broke one. I saw the crack, then watched as a large piece of the pane slowly broke away and dropped, shattering on the metal floor. Many pieces of a whole now scattered never to be put together again.

I thought about life and how things that were once treasured and useful are now considered disposable. The pieces of glass a reminder of what was once cut and fitted in a window to allow light, air, scents, life into a home, now trampled and useless.

Be careful not to take the good for granted. It’s never guaranteed to be there the next moment, time, or season.

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@BrianLoging
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Understanding Suffering

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Stay

Last week, one morning when I had the dogs outside taking care of business, we were up the hill of our backyard.

I’ve been working with our Beagle-Walker, “Scooby”, for almost three months training him to be a service dog. There are parts he’s excelling at and others that need more work. I had his leash but had let him off to work on obeying the “come” command. He was twenty feet away from me when down at the beginning of the driveway a brown dog appeared. Me and Scooby spotted it at the same time. I said; “Scooby! Scooby!” He stood still and I was getting to him as fast as I could without startling him as he stared at the unwelcome visitor. Quivering with energy and instinct he took off when I was five feet away! “Scooby! No!” but it was too late. He was gone. I leashed up Trooper (our Siberian Husky), went searching, and found him at a neighbor’s house.

There are seasons of loss in all our Iives. Times when what or who we love won’t stay. No matter what we say, do, or plan, we can’t keep relationships from dissolving, death knocking on a loved one’s door, jobs we care about ending, places we treasure disappearing, other occurrences happening, which alter us forever.

One of the most important disciplines we can learn is the practice of letting go and accepting that which we cannot change.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
thewannabesaint.com

Spunky and Sarcastic

I was called; “Spunky!” and “Wonderfully sarcastic” in our monthly staff meeting today by different people. These are two adjectives that aren’t typically used when referring to me. My anxiety has spiked the last couple of weeks and one of the lessons I’ve learned in therapy is when my anxiousness and worry are at their peaks the chinks and cracks in my socially acceptable, presentable, self are revealed.

Similar to a kettle of water letting off steam my anxiety shows itself as excitable and irritable. I mask it in spunkiness (hyperactivity) and sarcastic remarks (combative). As soon as I left the meeting today I could tell what was happening and went somewhere to walk around and burn off the pent-up energy.

One of the questions I’ve been taught to ask clients is; “What’s happening?” instead of; “Why are you this way?” The inquiry gives insight into a person’s internal world instead of focusing on the external. It also allows for a suspension of judgment and diagnosis allowing the specialist and the client to see beyond the symptoms.

Instead of labeling someone as difficult, challenging, a troublemaker, or disgruntled we need an understanding of who they are not just what they do.

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@BrianLoging
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A Whisper

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Protection

This past Saturday afternoon the skies cleared and I went outside to rake the leaves scattered all over the yard. I had my rake and a pair of gloves. Listening to music I began my chore. After about an hour I felt sensitivity and pain between my thumb and index finger on my right hand. Pulling off the gloves I discovered a big blister. I changed the way I was raking so as not to make the blister any worse but soon felt the same sensations on my left hand. Matching blisters! I wondered why I wore the gloves if I was going to get hurt anyway?

Life can be difficult. We do many things to protect us, those we love, and, hopefully, those who cannot protect themselves. However it’s not enough. Other forces impinge upon our lives and relationships. We find ourselves defenseless in the presence of chaos and happenstance.

Perhaps we also take some protections in our lives for granted. Marriage; two people once united become a couple drifting apart, the bond of friendship once rock solid breaks, jobs we like downsized or morphed into something less fulfilling. Sickness, transitions, death. The many protections once found in these no longer viable.

Is there a way to stop our protections from failing? No. Is there a way not to take for granted the people who are in our lives if only for a season? I hope so. Is there a way to live in the present and not obsess over a future unknown or mourn for a past that we can’t return to? I’m still working on it.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
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Kindness

I bought a smart watch during the week of sales at Thanksgiving. One of the apps installed on it reminds me to take mindful breaths during the day. It also asks questions that make me more aware of myself and others.

One of today’s question was; “Is there someone near you who could use some kindness?” At that moment I was by myself but I thought of someone I could call. So, I did. The conversation wasn’t long but it was good to connect, remind the person they are cared for and loved.

Truthfully I don’t think I would’ve thought of the person without the question but was thankful for the reminder and the follow through.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
thewannabesaint.com

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