Every so often my wife lets me do a load of laundry. It’s not her first choice or second. I know how but anytime I suggest it she flashes back to the first time I took her to a laundromat after we started dating. “How hard could this be?” I asked and proceeded to change almost every article of clothing I owned into a lovely shade of pink. Much training has happened since then and I can now approach the washroom without her going to Defcon 1!
Earlier this summer, while planting flowers, she tore her calf muscle when a pigeon attacked her (that’s a whole other story). Since then I have been taking care of much of the house keeping as she continues to mend.
Yesterday I was moving wet garments to the dryer and noticed it was tougher than it should’ve been. “Why wont the ‘stupid’ clothes go into the empty dryer?” …pause… “Because, smart guy, you gotta remove the previously dried clothing first!” Extracting the wet, then the dry, placing the wet attire back, I shook my head at myself. I told the story to my wife and received a look of; “so much to learn, so little time.”
Reflecting on this moment a favorite wisdom saying comes to mind,
“We may shape the clay but only the emptiness inside holds the treasure.”
We fill our minds with ways to prove our worth. A new discipline, another goal, an exciting hobby, so many ways to shape ourselves into what we think we need to be but too often obtaining more leads to less meaning.
Perhaps, our desire for the treasure of purpose and value, doesn’t start with cramming more things into an already too busy existence. Disciplines, goals, hobbies, other interests can certainly help lead us to mindfulness and wisdom. However, we need to empty ourselves first and then search for what will satisfy our quest for a life that matters.
pulling things out and letting go,