I spent the day helping a friend go through the belongings of a dear loved one who has passed. It’s tough going. One might think it’s the expensive toys, gadgets, and gizmos which you’d want to hold on to but instead, it’s the little things; sheets of paper, old license plates, CDs, notepads. Items which wouldn’t sell at a yard sale or purchased at Goodwill are of immense value, a treasure to the ones who remain.
Death is often an open wound. Scabs may form, some healing might occur, but grasping at past memories and experiences, strains and pulls apart the wound and the pain, heartbreak of loss returns. Its hard letting go. It’s difficult to say; “goodbye.” but death demands we do it again and again in many ways, on many occasions and you wonder if it will ever be the last time.
Moving on requires that one live open-handed, no clinging to earthly, temporal things, allowing the shared life of the one who is gone to be enough.
This morning I retrieved a load of clothes from the dryer which consisted mostly of my dress shirts and took them to my closet. On my way to the laundry room I grabbed a plethora of hangers, however, now that I had the dress shirts, I couldn’t find as many as I needed. Lazily, I didn’t want to walk back to the laundry room, so scavenged the closet for extras but didn’t find enough. Sigh! Back to the laundry room I went but happened to look down at the ironing board and hanging from it were more than enough hangers. I had all I needed, I simply needed to look in the right place.
One of my favorite wisdom proverbs;
“Stop searching for what you think you’re missing. You already have all that you need.“
I was reminded of that quote this morning as I hung up my shirts. We spend so much time trying to find what we think we’re missing, trying to be the people we think we’re supposed to be, searching in vain for purpose, peace and passion. To accept the truth that we have all we need, we simply must see it, is both freeing and allows us to settle within instead of a non-stop search without.