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Reacting

Reacting

What are you reacting to? Such a wonderful and powerful question.

We live in a reactive world. Opinions, biases, judgments, loyalties, choosing sides, seems to be what everyone around us is doing. We don’t have to ask for someone’s thoughts on a matter before they tell it to us anyway. Social media is a primary culprit but I’ve heard stories of this happening in restaurants, gas stations, and grocery stores. People can’t shut up or stop typing. It is a wonder anyone can find interior peace when the exterior world bombards our ears with a cacophony of noise and words.

The space in between” is a difficult discipline which needs broader acceptance. Basically, it teaches that between the incident and the comment is the moment to choose our response. Between the action and the reaction, we have the ability to make the situation better, the same, or worse. In the immediate time following an experience we have the ability to make it more or less unstable.

Reacting, choosing, deciding, what our reaction to a stimulus will determine our destiny. Will we be thoughtlessly reactive, speak without considering, act without thinking about the outcome? Or, will we remember the “space in between” and so grace, kindness, and love?

blessings,
@BrianLoging (Twitter)
thewannabesaint.com

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The Shut Up Game

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Each of us have someone in our lives with whom we’d like to play the “shut up”  game. Folks who drive us crazy with their incessant talking, advice giving, complaining or a combination of all the above. People like this can wear us out. We wonder how they stay conscious without pausing to take a breath or if there will be enough oxygen for the other occupants standing nearby. Perhaps we’ve been that person.image

I was listening to a man yesterday who told me; “It’s taken most of my life but I finally learned to start thinking before I started talking.”  It wasn’t a quip or an off handed remark. He knew firsthand the pain caused by not having a filter for his lips, a guard for his tongue. He bore the scars of ruined relationships and opportunities lost because he didn’t know how to be quiet or how to listen.

Seek first to understand then be understood. #StephenCovey

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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