We do not go into the desert to escape people but to learn how to find them; we do not leave them in order to have nothing more to do with them, but to find out the way to do them the most good. But this is only a secondary end. The one end that includes all others is the love of God.
A recent conversation with a friend sparked a question; “How aware are we of our ability to fool ourselves?”
Have you ever talked with someone and wondered if they realized their cluelessness? Someone, or a group, who are unaware of their agendas, biases, and preferences and how these taint their decisions? It seems so obvious and yet somehow not noticed. Do you know some people think the same thing about you.
We have an astonishing ability to fool ourselves, to think we are neutral, that emotions and experiences don’t color how we interpret and filter every event in our lives.
As much flack as he received over his tenure his statement in the video is revelatory. There are things we know and things we know we don’t know but there are other influences of our thinking and behavior of which we are unaware.
Years ago I worked with someone who constantly frustrated me. As much as I tried I couldn’t get on the same page with them. One day, while reflecting upon our tumultuous relationship, it dawned upon me I had a blind spot for this person. Because of our history, I saw or expected the worse of them. The realization didn’t change our major differences but it did alter my way of making decisions and interacting with them. Being aware of this forced me to question my interpretations of this person’s attitude and behavior and seek advice from others when conflicts happened.
“It is the mark of wisdom to be able to entertain a thought without believing it to be true.” Aristotle
Understanding our ability to fool ourselves, to be unaware of unknowns, reveals the great need for mindfulness, wisdom and clarity in our daily connections with others. It is humbling to accept the truth of our flawed thinking but not acknowledging it doesn’t make it less true.blessings, bdl
Keep your eyes clean and your ears quiet and your mind serene. Breathe God’s air. Work, if you can, under His sky.
A sweet elderly lady gave me a plate of homemade cookies yesterday and they are delicious! One of my favorite parts about the holidays is the food. Good food made by good people.
Beginning with Thanksgiving and ending sometime after New Years day this is the season to look forward to if you are a foodie. Where do you go to get your favorite holiday meal?
When I was growing up there was no 24 hour period such as the one that began on Christmas eve and went through Christmas day. The women in my family are awesome cooks and they went all out for these meals. When you were done someone needed to roll you out the door to your car.
Not for a moment would I have considered grabbing a bite at McDonald’s or Burger King on those days. I can’t imagine wrecking my appetite on food of that sort with the feast which was awaiting me. It wouldn’t make any sense to saunter into these family gatherings being full of junk food when something better was within reach.
Each day we make choices to fill up on cheap things or feast on what really matters. Too often we stuff our lives full of poor substitutes which spoil our appetites for the better things such as love, companionship and selflessness.
What’s on your menu?blessings, bdl
A brother asked one of the elders; “What good thing shall I do?”
The old man replied; “God alone knows what is good However, I have heard it said that someone inquired of Father Abbot Nisteros the great, the friend of Abbot Anthony, asking: ‘What good work shall I do?’ And that he replied; ‘Not all works are alike. For Scripture says that Abraham was hospitable and God was with him. Elias loved solitary prayer, and God was with him. And David was humble, and God was with him.’
Therefore, whatever you see your soul to desire according to God, do that thing, and you shall keep your heart safe.”