Turns Out to be Both

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A trending debate on the internet the last few days has been whether or not a dress is blue and black or white and gold. According to science the answer turns out to be both.

I was listening to a speaker this morning at a conference I am attending in Washington, DC. He asked; “What makes a good father?”  “The answer’, he continued, ‘determines how many men you can help become better dads.”

This holds true in other aspects of our lives. How we define a good person, good behavior, a good attitude, even a good culture or group of people affects our capacity to love and treat others with respect and compassion.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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When Everyone’s Watching



Across the road from the room I’m sitting in, attending a conference in Washington,DC discovering how to help dads and families, is an office building with large windows. The glass windows reach from ceiling to floor. Each individual pane of glass has an office on the other side. The occupants of these offices have been going about their day unaware of the guy whose mind sometimes wanders when he’s been sitting too long. One man is walking around talking either to himself or to a speaker phone, another lady is having an animated conversation with her desk plant or is on a video call. There are people setting up rooms, working on projects, talking to co-workers, picking at their scalps, and what looks like a sing along with music including hand waving.

They’ve been much needed entertainment when my brain gets restless. I smile because I’m fairly sure they’re not aware of my watching. I smile because I’m sure I’ve brought amusement to folks who’ve spied on me when I was unaware.

Wisdom teaches it’s a delicate balance to live as if everyone is watching but not being burdened by what they’re expecting to see.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com



Fading Beauty

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I spent most of the day traveling to Washington, DC to attend the Healthy Start Spring Conference, a national gathering of organizations committed to help communities and families in need.

On the almost twelve hour drive through Tennessee and Virginia there was a lot of snow, plenty of cows, farmhouses and many dilapidated barns. They were picturesque even in their decay. As I passed them I reflected on a time, not long ago, when they were first erected, used for numerous purposes, perhaps even the envy of neighbors. Now a good wind might topple them over and they’re not much good except for housing a few stray animals and a nice size bonfire.

I also reflected on how we are similar to these old buildings.

As the wise prophet Isaiah said;

“What shall I tell you? I will remind you that humankind is like the grass that dies away, and all its beauty will fade like dying flowers. The grass withers, the flower fades beneath the breath of God. And so it is with you fragile ones.”

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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On the Road Ahead

On the way back from a County Community Action Board today I spotted an unknown object behind a guardrail on the side of a road. It looked like some sort of small animal and I watched it carefully unsure of what it was going to do. Squirrels, foxes, skunks, dogs, cats and other critters can be unpredictable when they’re crossing busy roadways. Unfortunately, there have been times when animals have decided to turn around, stop, dart across the road and I’ve heard the dreaded; “thump!” of one that should’ve zigged but zagged instead. The closer I got, however, I noticed the object wasn’t moving and when I was almost on top of it, I saw it was just an old cardboard box and not a potential casualty.

The road of life is filled with the unknown. We spy something, unsure of what it is, and begin to play out scenarios and “what ifs” in our minds before we can even identify the possible threat. We worry, anticipate the worst and relive old hurts and regrets . While there have been and will be unexpected dangers, loss and adjustments made as we travel life’s road we must first see clearly before we know how to proceed and what we need to do.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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Together

A presenter at a seminar I attended today showed this video to illustrate the way a movement works, spreads, gains momentum. She spoke about a family advocacy group she is a part of that began with a few dedicated people and now impacts hundreds of families. As she told her story I was reminded of a quote by Margaret Mead;

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

We live in a world full of difficulties and hardships. I read an article this morning on Ending Child Poverty that laid out 9 very doable steps to reduce the number of children who live day-to-day without adequate healthcare, food, clothing and education by 60%! It could be done because other countries, Great Britain for example, have accomplished the feat. The question wasn’t “can we do it?” but; “do we care enough to get it done?”

It’s easy to become overwhelmed by global dysfunction. We wonder; “how can we ever hope to make a real difference?” The answer is…together.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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Discarding Others

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Have you ever noticed that not long after you trim your finger nails you need those now discarded nails for prying, opening, pulling, grasping something? Maybe it’s just me. This morning I cut my claws only to need them to put keys on a key ring about an hour later. Grrrr. The question is, “do I use them often and only notice when they’re gone or do I only need them after I clip them?”

I think we treat people this way also. There are those folks we cut out of our lives for different reasons; legitimate and not. We don’t see the need for them or surmised they’ve used up their usefulness. However, not long after they’re gone we realize we need them or at least there is now a void, a purpose they served, in our lives.

Before we make the decision to cut someone out of our lives, and sometimes this is the correct decision, we should be aware of what will be missing and how much we’ll miss them.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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the Path of Nowhere

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Sometimes you just feel lost, that no matter what you do, where you go, it doesn’t seem to be the right direction. Wandering in circles, dead ends, detours lead you chasing dreams, passions, purposes which will never be caught. These seasons of life can be draining, depressing and deadening. Our search only makes us ask more questions, our quest for stillness stirs up deep uncertainties and our restlessness plunges us into a dark abyss. We are nowhere.

The journey of self, the discovery of true life begins when we reach that place where we cannot return to what, who we were when we started. It is an uncomfortable, unsettling place and only from nowhere do we understand where we need to go.

blessings,
@BrianLoging
http://www.thewannabesaint.com

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