One of my favorite wise sayings; “When you pick up one end of the stick you also pick up the other.”
Choices and consequences surround us and only the foolish believe our thoughts, words and actions have no repercussions.
“We are about as happy as we make up our minds to be,” is another way of saying that much of the misery or joy in our lives come from our own making or our reaction to the difficult and painful situations that we encounter along life’s path.
Learning to be truly happy, content has more to do with what’s happening in us than what’s going on around us.
Something has been on my mind the past week, something dealing with an unknown, a future unknown. It is incredibly difficult to stay focused on the present. My wife and I were painting a room today, talking about many things, and I noticed my mind kept drifting back to this unknown that’s been plaguing me.
I stepped outside for a breath of fresh air and found the dogs doing nothing but enjoying the present moment. The Golden Retriever, Belle, was sleeping and the Siberian Husky, Trooper, was listening to the other dogs in the neighborhood who were worked up about something. No future worries, no concern about what’s next, just being present.
I long to be only here, now, in this moment and to trust everything else will be what it will be and whatever that is will be okay.
“If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever.” ― Dan Millman
Oftentimes our search for meaning and purpose has only to do with…us. We look for the things in life which invoke our passions and allow us to discover our place in the universe, make an impact, leave our mark.
What if our purpose is not to realize our dreams but enabling others to realize theirs? What if our reason for existence is to give others a reason to live? Would this satisfy our egos? Would it be enough?
“I must be willing to give whatever it takes to do good to others. This requires that I be willing to give until it hurts. Otherwise, there is no true love in me, and I bring injustice, not peace, to those around me.” ― Mother Teresa
Perhaps it is a greater dream, a nobler purpose, a holy calling to give our lives as an offering to one another. Maybe the gift of ourselves to others is the reason we exist, placed on this rock in a vast cosmos of seemingly random consequences and chance.
So many people with strong opinions,
all this hubris,
So little understood
so much surety about ones stance,
for the masses,
usually it seems ,
it is always someone else,
whom belong to that throng,
so called rational men and women,
by their arrogance.
Yes I know
Br. Mark Dohle, OCSO
Fretting brings to mind a violin player tightening the strings of their instruments, twisting, turning, stretching until… “snap!” the string or the violin breaks. Then a once beautiful instrument capable of rapturous music is no longer useful.
Fretting, anxious fantasies, obsessive thoughts can wind us tight, twist and turn our emotions until we snap! The worse thing about fretting is that it’s no good, nothing gained, all we do is destroy ourselves and those around us.
Wisdom helps us understand that inner peace comes when we learn to live, accept and discover how to make a contented melody with a world that is often off key.
Earlier today I took the dogs out and was lost in thought, waiting for them to do what needed to be done. As I walked around the yard my Siberian Husky, Trooper, strolled in front of me. All of a sudden he stopped and began hopping around and snorting at something. His sudden movement brought me back to reality in time to see a small snake. I was heading straight for it and might have stepped on it had not the dog seen it first. It wasn’t poisonous but still would have scared me and possibly harmed the tiny reptile sunning itself. I was thankful Trooper was watching where he was walking even though I wasn’t.
Good friends do this also. They pay attention when we’re distracted, help us keep our feet, try their best to stop us from going placed scary and dangerous.